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Postby meriad » 13 Jan 2015, 10:28

... always feel they can put you under pressure?

I have a friend (N). Quite a few years back, through N I met another girl called M. Now as a larger group we've all been out in the evenings but I'm not 'friends' as such with M and definitely not close friends.

About 3 years or so M moved back to Australia and started a nursing degree and is doing really well for herself and we've been in touch via the odd FB comment - but never any direct email exchanges or anything - just a simple 'like' to a FB post or a one line reply to something.... Now M is in London for 4 weeks as part of her course and this morning N emailed me asking if I'd made plans to meet up with M on a one on one basis at some time. I replied that I hadn't because financially I can't at the moment. My car went in for a repair just before Christmas, and having my niece over Christmas also cost money and I've bought some bits and bobs for the house; so right now I don't have the funds to go out hence being home in the evenings. I have two things in the diary this month and they're budgeted for - but not adhoc evenings out.

N then replied: "Aaaah - don't think she has much either - but given all her free time it would be easy for her to meet you after work for a drink or a coffee :-)"

I'm just a bit annoyed. What part of "I do not have the money to go out" isn't clear. N knows me well enough to know that I don't do 'meeting up for coffee', esp after work (besides which that would also be about £4.00 - I know that isn't much but right now it's £4.00 that I really wont want to spend, esp on coffee). And a glass of wine is easily going to set you back £5 or £6 depending on where you're going... again; right now that's money I'd rather be spending elsewhere.

Besides which - I'm meeting up with M & N on the 31st in Guildford - having lunch and a mooch around town; so I will get to see her.

Sorry - just needed to vent a bit.
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby Kaz » 13 Jan 2015, 10:39

It is annoying! Personally I hate being 'told' what to do, so I would resent that as well Ria :? :roll:
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby Diflower » 13 Jan 2015, 10:51

Grrrrrrrrr!! :evil:

So it's not even M who's asked?!
'Looking forward to seeing you both on 31st' - and leave it at that? :D
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby jenniren » 13 Jan 2015, 11:02

I agree with Di, a quick 'looking forward to seeing you both on 31st' is more than enough.
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby Ally » 13 Jan 2015, 11:06

jenniren wrote:I agree with Di, a quick 'looking forward to seeing you both on 31st' is more than enough.


Absolutely. :D :D
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby debih » 13 Jan 2015, 11:09

I agree too.

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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby meriad » 13 Jan 2015, 11:47

Thanks all - I've just emailed her saying what you said to say ...

sigh

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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby saundra » 13 Jan 2015, 12:24

it will be far nicer to meet later
when you can aford it
i would hate to go out with not much cash in case some one said lets have a meal or
something
its after xmas and all the big bills are due in
well mine are
so far this week iv got phone bill /broad band bill
water bill
credit card is due
and elec/gas
and its only tuesday
and rent to pay next week :roll:
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby Diflower » 13 Jan 2015, 12:35

I look forward to Feb and March Saundra, when there's no council tax :)
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Re: Why do some people ....

Postby saundra » 13 Jan 2015, 12:48

i pay mine in a lump sum in end of march
and try not to cry :) :) :roll: :roll:
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