... always feel they can put you under pressure?
I have a friend (N). Quite a few years back, through N I met another girl called M. Now as a larger group we've all been out in the evenings but I'm not 'friends' as such with M and definitely not close friends.
About 3 years or so M moved back to Australia and started a nursing degree and is doing really well for herself and we've been in touch via the odd FB comment - but never any direct email exchanges or anything - just a simple 'like' to a FB post or a one line reply to something.... Now M is in London for 4 weeks as part of her course and this morning N emailed me asking if I'd made plans to meet up with M on a one on one basis at some time. I replied that I hadn't because financially I can't at the moment. My car went in for a repair just before Christmas, and having my niece over Christmas also cost money and I've bought some bits and bobs for the house; so right now I don't have the funds to go out hence being home in the evenings. I have two things in the diary this month and they're budgeted for - but not adhoc evenings out.
N then replied: "Aaaah - don't think she has much either - but given all her free time it would be easy for her to meet you after work for a drink or a coffee "
I'm just a bit annoyed. What part of "I do not have the money to go out" isn't clear. N knows me well enough to know that I don't do 'meeting up for coffee', esp after work (besides which that would also be about £4.00 - I know that isn't much but right now it's £4.00 that I really wont want to spend, esp on coffee). And a glass of wine is easily going to set you back £5 or £6 depending on where you're going... again; right now that's money I'd rather be spending elsewhere.
Besides which - I'm meeting up with M & N on the 31st in Guildford - having lunch and a mooch around town; so I will get to see her.
Sorry - just needed to vent a bit.