I may regret this...

[saundra]

all i can say is goodluck
being the mum of 2 boys
the eldest was fine
but we went on holiday once leaving the youngest at home he was 18 ish
and working
never left him on his own again

[debih]

all i can say is goodluck
being the mum of 2 boys
the eldest was fine
but we went on holiday once leaving the youngest at home he was 18 ish
and working
never left him on his own again

Oh do tell us more Saundra.

[JoM]

Yes, you can't leave it there Saundra

Ally, that's what we were saying to him - that it's in his own interests that everything goes smoothly, otherwise he won't be trusted to so this again for a while...unless we sit in with them

LOL Di, how old is the youngest now?

[Diflower]

13 Jo

[Ally]

Yes, you can't leave it there Saundra

Ally, that's what we were saying to him - that it's in his own interests that everything goes smoothly, otherwise he won't be trusted to so this again for a while...unless we sit in with them

LOL Di, how old is the youngest now?

That's it exactly Jo..it worked both ways. The boys got what they wanted and felt good that they were being trusted.

And we felt happy for them that they were happy..and even happier our house stayed intact.

[saundra]

not alot happened really
except some of his mates stayed over the weekend
girls visited brings food/drink
and i had left loads of food
came home to a messy house not trashed just full ashtrays and stuff
one annoyed neighbour
thankgoodness there was no facebook 24 years ago
he never did it again
he got a lovely girl friend who came and stayed after that
and he never let his stepsons stay on there own
i wonder why

[Kaz]

We are leaving Becks for the week when we go to Corfu - she'll be dog-sitting MIL is literally 5 minutes away and has said if B gets too lonely they can just move in with her................

I think she'll be ok, she is probably one of the most sensible 17 year olds on the planet, but this thread is starting to worry me

[saundra]

you have to leave them sometime kaz
the year before we went awat and J went to lincoln to my brothers had a great time
and i have to say after having family holidays for years
it was lovely just the two of us
you will enjoy your corfu holiday
B is sensible not an 18 year old very sociable boy
wouldent trust him to this day and hes 42 now

[Gal]

I think it's a rite if passage for teens to be left alone in the house - a lot depends on the teen themselves and how mature they are though.

When Jen was 16 or 17, T and I went away for the weekend and we knew she had two girlfriends coming to stay overnight. On the Saturday night I got a text off J to say she was really sorry but some 'other people' had turned up and things had got a bit out of hand - I was beside myself!! When we got home, it transpired that she'd also asked a couple of boys along and then a few more showed up, they raided my drinks cabinet (not that I had a lot!) and ate everything in the house They'd also used the landline......

She spent Sunday cleaning up and tbh if I'd not known about it, I doubt I would have been any the wiser - apart from the food situation and the spirits! But it taught her a valuable lesson....it frightened her as she had no control over these other people, it could have been a LOT worse! She never asked for any sort of party again.....

[JoM]

Kaz, we're leaving Tom for a night in June when we go to London to see Green Day and the Bowie exhibition. Joe will go to my parents for two nights as we'll be leaving early on the Saturday.
I think he'll appreciate the quiet as he'll be midway through his GCSEs.

I'll never forget the party we had at a friend's house when we were Tom's age though. My best friend and I organised it for the Saturday before Christmas as her parents were going to be out. We invited maybe 10-15 friends but it ended up being easily double that and very quickly got out of hand and the house was trashed, just days before Christmas too
Maybe that's why I'm a bit extra-wary now with letting Tom have friends around.