Well that's solved that problem!

[debih]

Well I think it is a wonderful way to spend Christmas Fudgie. We had beef stew for our Christmas day dinner - I can't be bothered with the whole turkey thing. Too much like hard work.

Mick has one sister who has one son (aged 15) and they emigrated to New Zealand five years ago. Since they went the girls have never had a birthday or Christmas card or present from them. I send £10 to my nephew for his birthday and Christmas each year and have no idea if it even gets to them.

I was going to stop sending it as it annoyed me so much but now I quite enjoy the feeling of superiority it gives me - that I bother with him even if they don't bother with our two.

It makes me feel nice and smug.

[saundra]

your xmas day sounded ideal to me

[Weka]

We send to our niece and nephew in Christchurch, but we never hear naught, often have no idea if the Rachel's have been delivered no idea if they liked them. It really cheeses me off.i think I'm going to stop sending before there is an expectation on he child's behalf that there is a present from us. I'd send money, but I'm sure sil would snaffle that for her own pocket.

[JoM]

Not getting a thank you really winds me up. My two have been brought up to write a thank you card and when they were younger and cuter ( ) I'd put in a photo of them on Christmas morning or on the birthday too. It's not everyone who doesn't bother though, two of my cousins (a sister and brother) always send thank you letters from their sons and, like I used to, always put in a photo and I love receiving those!!

Saundra, when there was the fuss over the Easter eggs - we've not given them eggs since they were little and still lived up here, getting them to them in Wales isn't the easiest thing to do so no idea why Theresa suddenly decided to send our boys some eggs this year - I said that I wasn't going to buy them any, they're too old to start that daft game, and I did say to MIL that Theresa hadn't bothered with Tom's birthday so why should we bother sending them Easter eggs. Like I said, we never paid her for the eggs as it was her decision to buy them on our behalf, just so two adults and a teenager weren't upset by us not buying them any
So, anyway, MIL should realise why we're not being things for them and if she doesn't then she will be told! The three nephews are her favourite grandosns though so she won't like it

We usually send them £15 each for their birthdays (though the older two had more on their 18th and 21st birthdays) and at Christmas they get a gift and £10 from us.