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We've met with the funeral director today.

It'll be very simple.

3rd December will be the committal. Just me, mum, Mick, my sister, her partner and my inlaws at a short 10 minute ceremony at the crematorium.

Then on 10th December it'll be the service of thanks at mums church followed by food at one of the pubs in our village (which Dad liked).

Bit of a result on the xmas front. In the early hours of Tuesday morning, whilst waiting for the undertaker I mentioned xmas. Mum said she'd be fine on her own. I didn't push it. Today I said we would need to discuss it nearer the time as if I was asking her I needed to invite the inlaws and I didn't want her to decide last minute she wasn't coming and I be left with the inlaws. She announced that she was coming to us on xmas eve and staying til Boxing Day. We always go to our friends on Boxing Day and they have already said my mum is welcome to come with us. She may just watch the raft race and go home; she may decide to have a lift with the inlaws and go home xmas day night or she may decide to come and watch Julie and I get drunk on Boxing Day - but I'm so pleased she's coming to us. I mentioned that we go to the xmas eve carols round the tree and she said that sounded nice. We usually go to the pub for a drink on xmas day and that means, if she wants, mum can stay home alone for a couple of hours to give her chance to think and grieve in private.

Glad you've got it all sorted Debbie, and it must be a relief to know that she's decided to spend Christmas with you.

I bet she was pleased to see the girls today, how are they now?

I'm pleased things are getting settled Debih, you would have only worried if your mum was on her own at christmas (((((((((((x))))))))))))))

That's really nice Debih, and good that it's been decided now, so you know what's happening (((x)))

I'm glad you've got it all sorted Debih.

As for Christmas and your mum - I am so pleased she's decided to come and stay with you. It'll be nice for her to be with family and see the girl's enjoyment and take her mind off things hopefully.

How is she doing and how are the girls? And how are YOU? xxxx

(((((((((((Debih))))))))))) hope all goes as smoothly as possible. I know you will look after your mum, I hope you are being looked after too xxx

That's good you all Debih, that your mum decided to stay with you, better for her and everyone.

Continued hugs to you all xx

I'm glad you've got it all sorted debih, especially glad your mum will be spending Christmas with you and your family xxx

The girls are doing okay Jo - thanks for asking.

S keeps having a sob now and again. Her and mum had a good cry yesterday.

L deals with things very differently and I haven't seen her cry at all. When dad was in hospital mum gave her this toy dog to look after, saying it was grandads (he used it as a pillow sometimes - it is rather flat looking!). When Mick told her on Tuesday she clung to the dog.

On Wednesday when I started to talk to her about it she told me that she didn't need to be sad and miss Grandad as he was in her doggy and she could (and does) talk to him whenever she wants. And that the best thing was that the doggy has eyes so Grandad can see her again. That made me sob!

debih wrote:On Wednesday when I started to talk to her about it she told me that she didn't need to be sad and miss Grandad as he was in her doggy and she could (and does) talk to him whenever she wants. And that the best thing was that the doggy has eyes so Grandad can see her again. That made me sob!

Lord that would have set me off as well ((((hug))))