I've received a Christmas card from a couple who were dear friends of my late mum but I've exchanged Christmas cards with them and birthday card with the wife for years. I haven't seen them for a few years, though, although I knew the husband had had cancer but fully recovered. In the card was a note from the wife saying that the husband has been diagnosed, earlier in the year, with a tumour on the brain and is paralysed down one side. She said he's still very poorly. That's all I know, I don't know if he's at home or what the prognosis is, I can only guess.
I don't feel it's appropriate, now I know, to send a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year card. What do you think? Should I just send a letter or buy a blank Christmas card and write something like "thinking of you" (although you usually write that when someone has died). They are very private so I can only guess he is
very poorly for them to have mentioned it. Maybe they're trying to carry on as usual so perhaps I should send an ordinary card. Really not sure what to do
